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Mondays Our Way:Test Anxiety

Testing.

There, I said it.

Unschooling brings along a lot of questions about testing. From the public school side, people tend to be skeptical, wanting kids to be tested to "prove that they are really being educated". From the unschooling side (which tends to differ from traditional homeschooling on the subject of test administration) the thought of the government handing our children a standardized test leaves a foul taste in our mouths.

The good news is that less than 50% of states require standardized testing for homeschooled students. The bad news is that most people cannot afford to move just to avoid standardized tests if their state requires them. The worst news is that in many states with standardized testing laws there are provisions which would legally force you to send your child to public school should they not meet testing requirements. I could go on for hours-nay, DAYS-about what a flagrant violation of personal liberty that is, but I'll limit it to just the one extra large bolded comment.

Continuing on....

So what do you do if you're looking down the line to forced standardized testing with potentially infuriating consequences? If your kids have yet to enter the public school system you can always remember to forget to register them with the school district-but if your children were already in the system, or your state has criminal penalties for such action, that's probably not a good idea. My recommendation?

Obey your state's homeschooling laws. TO. THE. LETTER. in the letter, and not in the spirit. (Find your states exact law, and a legal interpretation of it, courtesy of HSLDA)

The laws regarding schooling are often not what you would expect. For instance, did you know that the legal age of compulsory education is usually NOT five? In fact, only 11 states require that 5 year olds be in school, and 2 of those 11 allow exceptions. Within the US, compulsory schooling is required, on average, beginning at age 7. (Check HERE to see your state's compulsory schooling age.)

Also, did you know that nearly half of the states that require testing require it at certain grade levels as opposed to yearly or at certain times (find an overview of testing requirements by state HERE)? And who decides what "grade" your homeschooled child is in?

That's right, you do.

Another thing to look into-while many school districts "require" you to turn in your child's standardized test scores, the law often only requires that you keep records available upon written request.

Let me be sure to clarify-I'm not suggesting that you do anything illegal, and I'm not suggesting that you don't educate your child. I do suggest, however, that parents opposed to standardized testing who live in mandatory testing states arm themselves with very specific legal knowledge regarding state requirements and then work within those requirements in a way that best suits their family.

After all, personalized education in the best interest of your child is what homeschooling is all about.

The Size of Your Sin

I don't normally write about religion or faith. It's not really what I'm interested in writing, and I don't feel like it's something worth stirring the teacup over. Everyone believes however they feel convicted to, and I totally support that even if I don't agree with the philosophy itself.

However, when I was reading Angela's blog-which always serves up some food for thought on faith-I began thinking about sin and I decided I would write about it this Sunday. I know. I am surprised too.....sin is a big topic. It's kind of controversial.
OH WELL.

You should know that I personally am a Christian. I have no specific denomination-I don't even attend church (because I can't find the right one, there is nothing wrong with church)-I'm just the plain old Christ following kind of Christian. All of my beliefs are based solely on my personal interpretation of the Bible and the message and words of Jesus and don't represent any specific church, Christianity in general, or really anyone besides myself. And sometimes Hubby.

That being said, back to sin. Let's get a couple of the basics out there. I personally believe that everyone sins, and that any and all sin is equal because it all separates us from God.(James 2:10) That's right, I believe that Mother Teresa was a sinner and that lying by omission is just as bad as adultery. On the plus side whether you are Joan of Arc or Joe the Crackhead I believe all you have to do is ask God's forgiveness and you are freely saved through God's grace(Titus 3:5, Romans 3:22-25).

So here's my question-why are some sins more taboo than others?

I have a thought on this. I think it has way less (if anything) to do with God and the Bible and more to do with people and their natures. It is much easier to say, "Well sure, I'm a sinner" if you can follow it up with "but I'm not as big a sinner as that guy" or "but it's only a little sin". As far as I've read the Bible doesn't support that kind of thinking, but you see it in every church, in an astounding number of Christians.

People are ousted from congregations and ostracized often from the Christian community (by fiery judgment or by being frozen out) for being gay, living together and/or having a kid before you are married, having substance abuse problems, having an extra marital affair, etc. .....but no one gives you the cold shoulder for cheating on your fourth grade spelling test, calling in syck (fake sick), thinking lusty thoughts, or even something like shoplifting. These are all seen as sins, but the first set often meet anger and cause personal rejection in the Christian community and the second set are, when discovered, treated as no big deal. Why is that?

My personal opinion is that it's all about the size of your sin. I like to call them pocket sized and no crap sized sins. A pocket sized sin is something that is not immediately obvious-and therefore cannot be immediately judged. Someone usually has to know you personally before they'll find out that you lie, cheat, shoplift, or whatever and by the time they get to know you well enough to know that, they're more inclined to "go easy" on you.

It's easy to see and judge the no crap sized sins. You see a man kissing another man in your church you know they're gay. Living together before you're married is just as obvious (there is a whole house where you both live and all), and people who have children out of wedlock have a walking, breathing testament to their "sin" (Yes, I'm using quotes in this instance, but I'm not going there right now, maybe another post someday. Probably not.)-there's no hiding your 12 year old.

It's easy to see someone's no crap sized sins and allow yourself to think that your sins are not as bad, but that's simply not true. Your sins are just secret, that's all-but let's not forget that NO ONE'S sins are kept secret from God. We all fall short of Him, and none of us are worthy on our own. We all require grace-the amount or frequency of which is inconsequential. The point is that we couldn't do it on our own.

I'd also like to put one last thing out there-do you think Jesus has favorites? Do you believe that Jesus likes/loves say Billy Graham more than He loves an unwed teen mother or a lesbian?

I don't.

So if it's our goal to be like Him in all of His ways, how can we pick favorites? How can we attempt to justify our own sins by condemning the "bigger" ones? Can't we just agree that all of us are unworthy and rejoice together that we are saved by grace? In that spirit, why wouldn't we open our hearts and congregations (as applicable) to people with the no crap sized sins? We know that's really what Jesus would do, because that's what He already did!

In the end, Jesus loves you unconditionally-so why not love other people flaws and all, and allow the judgment to come from the only One who is qualified to judge us?

Just my thoughts. Happy Sunday.

Near and Far Giveaway! Win a Salon Gift Certificate or Blog Makeover

Maybe all the sunshine has messed with my brain a little, but I am in a generally fabulous mood lately. The kids are as cute as ever, I got a steal on my digital camera, my garden looks fantastic, and I have I told you how fabulous my hair is these days?

My gorgeous hair is all thanks to Natanya, owner and operator of Ahead of Style. As I mentioned before, I traded her some web design for a perm and color-and can I just say that was a great trade? I am especially in love with my color-and in awe of the fact that Natanya could create the perfect color for me when all she had to work with was "I want a reddish-dark-brownishy color". The lady is definitely a professional...and a generous one at that...that's why she has agreed to participate in a fabulous giveaway with me!

For Readers Near By....

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If the winner of the gift certificate loves Ahead of Style like I do and decides to indulge in salon services valued at $100 or more, Natanya will give add an additional $15 onto your gift certificate...making it a cool $50!

$50 for $100 worth of expert salon services? What a GREAT DEAL, am I right?

For Readers Far Away...

But what about those who are not blessed to live in our fair neck of the woods? I would NEVER leave you guys out!

In celebration of the rebranding of my web design business, newly operating as SPLASH OF COLOR STUDIOS, I personally will be giving one lucky far away winner a FABULOUS BLOG MAKEOVER! Included will be an entirely custom design for either a Blogger or Wordpress site, including a custom header, a matching button, and a custom signature! All you have to do is leave a comment below telling me you are a reader from afar and you want your blog (or your friend's blog, if you're feeling generous) to look fabulous!

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