How has motherhood changed me? Just look at a picture of me before I had children....
As you may or may not notice, I am very well groomed in that picture. I mean coiffed. My hear is permed and styled. I am wearing make up in that picture. That used to be an every day occurrence...now I consider it a 'fancy' day if I have enough time to put on a bra and pants that have a zipper.In this picture, though I know you are all far too polite to notice, I am also 40lbs lighter. And who are we kidding, that's not baby weight...that's roughly the weight of my five year old. Truth be told, I have gained 25lbs since delivering The Bean. Turns out eating one meal a day at nine o'clock at night after the kids have gone to bed is the equivalent of metabolism suicide.
Lastly, though you can't tell from the picture, I can assure you that I smelled like vanilla and roses. That was my 'scent' back before I had children. Now my scent is the sour stench of spit up with just a hint of peanut butter, since I have no desire to change my clothes 600 times a day after each time that I am used as a human napkin.
Before I had children I was put together, I smelled nice, and I was thin-but that's obvious. The real secret here is that I wouldn't change the way things are now for all the money-or vanilla bubble baths-in the world. Motherhood has changed me on the inside as well.
Motherhood has given me more patience, enough to answer every "why?" with a smile as I watch my childrens' world expand and their minds open to new things.
Motherhood has made me more compassionate as I realize now that every person on this planet is someone's baby.
Motherhood has shown me how to be more flexible, since nothing ever works out the way you plan it but somehow always works out okay in the end.
Motherhood has made me brave. Brave enough to face my flaws, and brave enough to fix them. Brave enough to say I DON'T KNOW, but I will learn. Brave enough to raise three children five and under on three hours of sleep a night....and if I'm brave enough to do that, there is no stopping me.
I am Mommy. The reader of the bedtime stories. The kisser of boo boos. The recipient of crayon art, couch snuggles, and the pure unconditional adoring love of three amazing children. Motherhood has certainly made some messy changes, but it is still the best thing that has ever happened to me.
[This is written in response to this week's Writer's Workshop. Visit Mama Kat to see more and participate!]
98 comments:
"brave enough to say I don't know and brave enough to learn" I love that! Motherhood is truly an amazing journey, thanks for sharing yours!
Great post! I also have POST baby weight. It sucks. I need to lose about 40-50 lbs.
Visiting from Mama Kats...
This was great... I really enjoyed it. I love your description of a "fancy day." Cracked me up!
And don't you wish a perfume company would make a perfume called "Mommy" and it smelled like a freshly washed baby with a hint of powder? We could just put it on to cover up the other nasty smells! : )
The things our kids to do us...it's amazing! I love it :)
Motherhood brings alot of changes...and some great little people!
Great post! I also wrote on this topic on my blog:
http://theunexperiencedmom.blogspot.com/
I agree that motherhood changes us, sometimes not in positive ways, but having those amazing kids makes it all worth it....even the extra weight! ;-)
Tamara
Very well put. It's amazing that motherhood can bring such a mixture of ups and downs but with such great joy.
ooh, great post. i relate to all of it, and was especially touched by this part:
"Motherhood has made me more compassionate as I realize now that every person on this planet is someone's baby."
i remember having that realization one day - powerfully and poignantly, it came out of nowhere, and has definitely changed my world-view. i do make an exception to mahmoud ahmadinejad and adolf hitler, though. oh, and heidi montag.
I totally feel you on this one.
I love the mommy version of me, even if it involves stretch marks and really bad hair.
Motherhood changes every aspect of your life, doesn't it? Loved your post.
You've got the good, the bad and the ugly all wrapped into one cohesive post. :) Nice!
great post! You had me at "now i consider it a fancy day if i put on a bra and pants with a zipper" haha sooooo true. we are all there with you hun. Found you on SITS
I love the bit about being brave...so true.
What a wonderful mommy-post! BTW, apparently I changed my name to "Hey Momma," not just mommy. Congrats on your day in the spotlight! Be blessed!
Ooooh, you've just reminded me why I'm NEVER having children!!! ;-)
Have a fantastic SITS day!
LBM xxx
A great post girl! You should see my post twin huge baby body. Good heavens - not a pretty picture.
motherhood is a wonderful experience its true :) and i wont change it for anything else in the world
I would not change my life for anything in the world either. My boys have changed my life and I cannot imagine it without them.
i love your blog! In particular the layout its so clean and simple...looks great
`Nuff said. That was an awesome post - and so true. Well put, Mrs M!! Happy SITS Day!
"now i consider it a fancy day if i put on a bra and pants with a zipper"
Today I obviously looked a bit flash (I'd brushed my hair LOL) because when I emerged all dressed and shiny my 2 yo asked me if I was going out :)
What a sweet way to describe the positive changes you've experienced. :-)
Love this post. :-)
I love this post! Loved the bra and zipper comment!
I wouldn't trade all the "fancy" days in the world for one day with my kids. You sound like my kind of Mom!
Congratulations on your SITS day.
No after picture? We all change over time, mommy or not. I try to prioritize taking care of myself even though it falls low on my list most days.
So true and so well put! Especially being brave:) And I'm so glad I'm not the only one that now considers makeup days as "fancy" days.
Isn't it funny how we all think...oh that won't be me when people talk about post baby weight, and not time to eat right, or exercise?
Loved your post and how you also highlighted the positive changes motherhood has brought about.
Stopping by from SITS. Congrats on OUR DAY!!! What a wonderful view of motherhood. It IS all worth it. (loved your line about eating junk food and watching the Biggest Loser!!!!)
sweetjeanette.blogspot.com
Happy SITS day. I might add my own comment: I can speak fluent 2-yr-old, but have trouble speaking an adult sentence :).
@cheapchichome
Everything you said is just sooo true :).
I personally remember the human nakin, although in my son's case it was the human tissue. When he was just tall enough to reach the hem of my shirt he would wipe his nose on it. Ugh, I know, but you get used to it.
Congrats on your SITS Day...I hope it lasts and lasts :).
Frannie
My youngest of three boys just turned five and I am back to my normal weight but my hips will forever be widened.
I am not quite sure that I am happy about how completely I fit the "hippy chic" bill but I am very grateful that low riser jeans and platform boots are in these days.
One thing is for sure, my boys keep me running and whenever I try to eat something naughty they steal it right out of my hands, like little birds. A sure way to eliminate sweets forever.
Forget the weight training and the yoga, just have boys.
Happy SITS day by the way.
Wow. A GREAT Post. Beeautiful! Well said. It does take bravery to raise three under five! Enjoy it.
From one mom to another, I agree wholeheartedly, although after my last post, I would add post babies that my boobs now need origami to fit into any normal bra!
Happy SITS day!
This was such a sweet post to read. Thanks for sharing with me. I'm not a mother yet, and I'm sure it will change me, too!
happy SITS day!
Such a great post! I love being mommy too!! ;-)
Oh yes, the un ending changes of motherhood! Life is a great ride.
I love that I'm not the only one who thinks wearing pants with zippers is kind of dressing up! LOL.
For the record, you look fabulous:)
But it is so much fun! Just watch the Hills and remind yourself how much worse it could be (or better??)
Happy SITS day!
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My mom used to always tell us she was going to change her name and not tell us what it was;-)
And kudos for only needing to lose 40 lbs! I have 100 to lose post baby!
Happy SITS day.
I can so relate to this. Well said mama!
XO
Leigh
What a lovely post!!!
I agree Mommyhood will do crazy things to you(ask my theighs).
I think you and your blog are FABULOUS!!!
Smooches,
Sassy Chica
~new follower~
Awww- the human napkin. I can totally relate to that! I go to work smelling of spit up all the time!!! :) Just gotta smile, what else can you do?
Loved this post! I too was a totally different person before I had kids. And while my life is drastically different than before (most of the time it's for the better but MAN, there are days ...) I wouldn't change a thing.
Great post and well written. I am also a gainer of weight AFTER I have the baby. I usually lose weight during pregnancy and come out post delivery weighing less than when I started. But sadly, I gain the baby weight back plus some.
Motherhood is amazing and I love it!
I also love the look of your blog-especially the photos of you and yours in the about me section. What else in the world could make us put the health and happiness of others before our own besides having kids? You sound like an awesome mama who adores her new name! Love you blog, and Happy SITS day.
great post I love when people get so gritty and honest!!
No after picture????
I love that your scent is now peanut butter and spit up! Now whenever I get dressed up and put on perfume or what not my kids go "Mom...you smell funny!" Oh really? :oP
My best, Lynn
So beautifully written and very relateable. I, too, am heavier and less put together, but wouldn't trade this part of my life's adventure for anything.
Jenn @ rookno17.blogspot.com
Mom's like you make the world a better place! :)
Perfect post. Exactly the way many, many of us feel.
Post baby weight...let's not go there! :O
I totally agree, being a mother is just the most amazing thing. I love being a homeschooling mom as well, I love being with them all the time, during these younger years which are so precious to me as well as to them...even if they drive me flippin' insane sometimes! lol
hee hee - I find it a lucky day when I get in a good shower too!
This is the EXACT reason I started my blog - because I too have the "fancy days" of wearing a bra and zippered pants! I think every mother can relate to this ... or at least, the ones I want to talk to. :)
Excellent blog! Especially nice layout.
Stopping by from SITS, congrats on getting Featured Blogger! You deserved it!
It's great how a child will love you despite your bad hair day and no makeup day. Most of the time, I was a "learn-as-you-go" parent!
Happy Sits Day!
Exactly what the world of Mommy is about! Happy Sits Day from a new follower!
"Motherhood has made me more compassionate as I realize now that every person on this planet is someone's baby"
Ok...I just love that!! Sharing on twitter and with some friends! :-)
As we speak I currently have peanut button on my sweater lol. I hear you on the bra and pants thing too!
I'm with you on the compassion thing. I never really had a thought about all the "bad people" out there doing criminal acts. But since I've had kids I tend to feel really sad for these people and their mothers. Assuming they have mothers that care it must just break their hearts. I'm not very eloquent this morning having been up since 3am with sick children but you probably get the idea.
Sweet post. Embracing motherhood is the way to go!
Happy SITS Day!
***Ally
I'm glad I found your blog on SITS! I'm totally with you on 3 hours of sleep a night thing! :) What a great post! Motherhood is truly an amazing venture!
Great post...Motherhood rocks!
Being mother is great! Even on 3 hours of sleep!
There are many perks of being a mom. Being sleep deprived and a human napkin are not two of them. My kids are 17 and 14 and trust me when I say - you will get a full night's sleep again. Each and every night. And you will buy and wear perfume, your hair will be coiffed and you will have the time and energy to put on a bra and pants that do not need mending. I promise.
I have a 5 and 4 year old. I have art all over my walls and furniture. My dog regularly gets make-overs. My body is destroyed from back to back pregnancies. I find myself enjoying the Fresh Beat Band and Yo Gabba Gabba. Isn't it great!? Who needs zippers anyway?
You write about motherhood so well. I have a 4 yr old and a 6 yr old and it will get better :). Happy SITS day.
I feel ya..someone asked me if I was working out today because I had drawstring jersey pants on...I said..no, I just have a sick child.
So maybe I do have hope left for gaining some patience someday! I can only hope that someday when I have kids I can be that kind of mommy.
Happy SITS Day!
You are a brave Mommy that's for sure!
Love it~ I can totally identify!
Happy SITS Day!!! I seem to have some PRE baby weight to get rid of... like before I even get pregnant. :)
Well said! This is a great reminder for overwhelming days.
your preachin' to the choir!
Nicely put!
Happy SITS day!
Yes, a "human napkin" is exactly how I feel. I just needed someone to put it into words!
Does the smell of spit up ever go away? I kinda feel like it's permanently etched in my nostrils.
Good Post It is amazing how little people change us in ways we can not imagine!!!
Happy fb day, SITSA!
Very sweet post.
Happy SITS day. Great post. Motherhood has made me braver is so many ways as well. My oldest is 15 (I unschooled him for a couple years as well. loved it!) I never would have become the person I am today without my children.
Boy, do I hear you sister! I've had to stop myself from finishing the dude's chicken nuggets way too many times. Ah ha
"bra and pants with a zipper" - love it! I also loved it when people noticed I gained weight after my kids and they'd say, "well, you had a BABY." Okay people, the kid was only EIGHT pounds. LOL!
The story of our lives! It's a great story though, isn't it?!
Happy SITS day!
What a great tribute to all mommies out there! I too have gained a majority of my weight after the birth of my kids.
Happy SITS day!
So well-written! Congrats on yoru SITS day!
Great post. :) I consider it a fancy day when I make it out of my pajamas and a really posh week if I get more than one shower. Lol!
This is a great post :)
Ah, the smell of spit-up... I can't wait lol.
Isn't it wonderful? Motherhood is all that you mentioned and...when you get really, really angry with hubby, you can call him a motherf@!#%* and mean it! (Hope that wasn't too graphic, I have an ornery sense of humor). ;)
Great post....motherhood is a dirty job, but i'm so glad i get to do it (even on those bad days)
Stopping by from SITS to wish you a Happy SITS day!
Great Post!!!
Motherhood does have it's joys and other stuff. I am trying to work on the other stuff.
I LOVE THIS POST! I can't relate to it also with twin two and a half year olds. Way to focus on the positives :)
Happy Belated SITS day to you!
visiting from SITS
love it, you are right, I always swore motherhood wouldn't change me but it certainly did
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I hope you loved your FB day!
So true that motherhood is filled with "I used to."
Just as well we love it anyway!
Found you on SITS!
Great post!
i'm looking forward to every minute of that stuff!
You are very blessed to be a mother!
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