Sunday, November 8, 2009

Happy Anniversary

The woman who settled down at 16 and whose relationship resulted in 3 children has (according to the CDC) a 30.01% chance of still being with the same person after 7 years.

What can I say, I'm stubborn.

That's probably why, rather than writing the gushing love post to Hubby I planned to write about pitter pattering hearts in honor of our 7th anniversary, I'm writing this post instead. The truth is, I'm not feeling very pittery. I'm exhausted, my teeth are killing me, and I'm buried up to my eyeballs in independent contract work-some that are trying to negotiate me down to 1/4 of my price, and some that won't even pay me until January. For the last few days I've been perpetually on the prowl for the next person to piss me off so that I can destroy them....I'm the freakin' fairy of flippin' fun right now....and do you know what the best part is?

Hubby loves me anyway.

That's right-I haven't gotten out of my pajamas since Friday. I haven't brushed my hair in that time and I've only taken one shower. I smell like that special putrid blend of Eau de Mommy, and my disposition is twice as sour, but my husband loves me no matter how I act or smell.

He doesn't care that I've gained 25lbs since The Bean was born either-he still thinks I'm sexy (and I've got the hickeys to prove it). He doesn't care that I'm a mess at this point, he would never leave me. He'd fight me, for sure-he's always pushing me to do more and do better for myself, even when I'd rather fight him than listen to him-but he doesn't mind fighting my ridiculous stubbornness....if that's what's best for me he'd fight me for me forever.

That's what a real relationship is all about. It's easy to think in the abstract about all of the ooooey gooey mushy love fluff, but when you're in a committed-forever relationship you have to have more than that or you'll fail. It's also easy to set up a system in your head and pretend that things will always work that way, but that rarely happens either. Real love has romance, and there is some direction, but mostly it is a lot of hard work. It's loving someone no matter what-thick or thin, grumpy or happy, exhausted or well rested, poor or rich, foul or fragrant-that's unconditional love. It's a lot of hard work, but it's worth it. Just ask Hubby....

....Though maybe not right now, because he already got an earful today while I was on one of my fury rampages and I'm pretty sure he just wants to sleep peacefully at the moment.

Happy 7th Anniversary Lovey Bear~
With all my heart,
Your petulant but adoring wife

16 comments:

singedwingangel said...

Happy Anniversary!! I have been in this thing for 14 years this past October. TD Jakes once said that he spoke to a woman who had been married 63 years and in asking her the secret to a successful marriage was taken aback by her response.. IT is not in staying in love nad not fighting or going to bed angry, it is the ability to have ONE of us stay in love when the other isn't anymore. Having the strengtht o FIGHT for what we know is the right thing instead of walking away and doing the "conveninet and easy" thing..

K said...

Congrats on 7 years!

I hope all the other stuff works itself out, but it is good to have a hubby who still loves you through it all.

Melissa aka Equidae said...

it was a perfect post that a lot of couples need to read as lately it seems a lot think that being married isjust having fun.

Happy Anniversary !

One Cluttered Brain said...

LOVE the wedding cake toppers.
HAPPY ANNIVERSARY you two! Hope you make it another 7 zillion more!
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Noelle said...

congratulations on your anniversary...and best wishes for many, many more to come!

5thsister said...

Happy Anniversary!

Jen said...

This is really what its all about. After going through life together, you still love each other, no matter what.

Happy Anniversary.

Jamie said...

Happy Anniversary! Great post! I love that cake topper I wish I would have had it!!!

Allyson said...

whoa! congrats on 7 years momma!!

Jenny said...

Happy Anniversary!

PaperbackWriter said...

Happy Anniversary! Heres hoping for another Lovin' 7!

I've battled mine for 10 and we're still going strong. I love to hear of another love pushing for his to be all she can be whether she wants to or nut, but definitely needs to!

I'd rather a good 'fight' and make-up session some days rather than pretending all is right in my bubble of the world!

Geezees Geezees Custom Canvas Art said...

Happy Anniversary...loved your post...very beautiful!

Kirsty said...

Well said and happy anniversary. Romance is one thing, true and lasting love is quite another. They can co-exist sometimes but it's when things are really unromantic that you see what the love is made of.

Beautiful post, here's to many many more.

Sherri @ Luv a Bargain said...

Happy Anniversary (a day late):) Yea for being able to be yourself!

Mel @ A Box of Chocolates said...

Happy Anniversary to you and your hubby too!! It is great to hear about marriages that are lasting. Hubby and I celebrated our 10th this summer and we're still happy as can be. It's good to be the minority!!

scrappysue said...

wow! happy anniversary!