Monday, March 1, 2010

Husband, Oh Husband

I miss my husband. I know I shouldn't complain because he hasn't really "gone" anywhere and I see him every day but I never get to spend any time alone with him!

Cue petulant foot stomping.

My parents won't take any kids who need butt changes and Hubby's parents' response is always "well WE never go out alone"....That may not be a problem for them since they don't particularly like each other (we've given them an open invitation to drop the girls off and they never have) but I happen to really really like my husband and want to be alone with him.

It's not even for sex reasons-we still fit that in three or four times a week-I'd just really like to have a conversation with him that doesn't get interrupted 19 gajillion times. I'd like to eat with him as opposed to in shifts. I'd like to walk somewhere and hold his hand if not simply because it's not covered in boogers.

I love my kids, I really do. I love spending time with them and I wouldn't trade my days with them for anything.....but I also happen to be madly in love with their dad and would love to sit down and have a nice chat with him. ALONE.

Yes, I know that we can do this when the kids are older, but I am feeling particularly whiny right now and with all the stress eating away at me I just want to run away and spend an afternoon with my best friend (that would be Hubby). The last time we were alone together was in November 08, and that was for about an hour. [We ran errands for our anniversary (woo!).] Even that little time spent, sad as it was objectively, was fun to me because it was just us.

I guess we'll just do what we always do when we need some time and put the kidlets down at 6 so that we can watch a (regularly interrupted) movie in (relative) peace, but I still want to get away with my Hubby before I'm too old to have any fun with him or too stressed to care.



Beth P. said...

I hope you find a way to get some alone time! That is one of the toughest challenges! My husband and I tend to reserve our babysitters for nights when we want to go out with friends, which means we're still not actually alone. It is difficult!

Chrissy MacCEO said...

I totally get what you are saying and I swear there is something in the air!! You are the fourth post I've read this morning about the topic, and that doesn't include the post I did last night that's kinda in the same ballpark!! It's so nice to hear that you WANT to spend time with your hubby, too!

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Lesley said...

I can so understand....I finally found a place drop in chid care that has Saturday night openings....thank god...otherwise we would probably never go out!

Melissa aka Equidae said...

i understand! thankfully my inlaws are quite happy to keep greg once a month for us to go out on a date

singedwingangel said...

Wait what kind of grandparent puts limitations on their grandkids?? Not mine shoot she would rather have em when they are still in diapers and relatively easy to mind lol.. Hope you get your time soon hun

Bossy Betty said...

Oh yes. I remember those days when the most meaningful conversations were "Milk. Need Some. You Get." uttered in the hallways. When the weather gets better maybe you can go for walks or to a park with the kids. It worked for us!

Kirsty said...

Awww...that sucks. Really you sooooo do need to have alone time. I think it's important that you guys start creating some sort of support group which does not rely on your relatives (since they seem a bit useless). Find a church/playgroup/something with other young couples and trade babysitting. We did that when our kids were younger. Unless you have boatloads of cash for babysitters (and they are often hard to find) you have to rely on others in the same boat, so I highly recommend seeking them out.

((())) on the upside, it's great that you want to be with your husband so much, I find it sad when people don't really care one way or another.

Anonymous said...

We ususally have an hour or so after kids go to sleep to ourselves, but sometime I really miss alone time with him too.

It's a beautiful thing that you love your husband so much. Hope you sneak a little alone time soon.