This week for writer's workshop, Mama Kat wants to know about our take on the big D. Divorce is common, obviously...I'd even venture to say that the majority of people in my generation have divorced parents-and that their parents divorce rate is the reason why so many of my peeps choose cohabitation over marriage.
In my life, I do not consider divorce to be an option. After all, there is only one thing I would consider an acceptable reason to leave my husband (abuse) and that would never happen in a million years because Hubby is a gentle, honorable man.
That doesn't mean he doesn't piss me off in a bad way sometimes. I am writing this less than two hours after the biggest fight we've had in probably 6 months and I can assure you of two things-sometimes that man makes me so mad that I secretly wonder if my ears are smoking ala Yosemite Sam, and that no matter how nice it seems like it would be in those moments to take a vacay away from the hubby, I would never leave him.
Why not? Well, there are several reasons and depending on how mad I am I rely on different ones. If I'm super pissed, I just remember that I have less than radiant qualities myself and that he has stuck by me in spite of them. If I am red-hot-lava-pissed I remind myself that my life, while temporarily less complicated, would be miserable without him. If I am super nova, erupting volcano, Yosemite Sam pissed I make sure to tell myself--I am an honorable person and I stand by my word. I gave my word to God and to this man that I would stand beside him until death do us part in good times and in bad-and nobody was kidding about the bad part. If I focus on my vow, I inevitably think of the other part (you know, the good part), of how my life is so much better because of my husband and how lost I would be without him, and ultimately (no matter how pissed I was) I always come back to how grateful I am that he honors his vows when I am acting like a mule headed toddler.
Then I apologize for acting like a giant stubborn whiny baby pee pants, for which he always forgives me, and he apologizes for being a jerk, for which I always forgive him, and all is well. I'm not saying that no one should ever get divorced-other people's marriages are none of my business-but when I think of the big D I know in my heart that it will never be the solution in my marriage.
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